I’m Having Surgery+Life Update

This photo is old but I promise to take some new ones

If there was an award for best blogger I wouldn’t even be nominated. But I’m trying to get back into the swing of things. I’m pretty impressed with the interest you all showed in my last post.

You all definitely deserve a life update. As most of you already know, I suffer from bladder leakage and it’s not getting better. I’ve tried so many different ways to control it. But now I have to have a small operation early in May. It’s actually really cool because Botox will be injected into the wall of my bladder. Right now my bladder is constantly moving and can’t hold any liquid. So the Botox will make it chill out.

It’s normally a 30 minute procedure done in the doctors office but since I have to have my urethra stretched to get the scope and catheter to fit I have to be sedated.

As much as I’m excited (because this basically life changing) I’m also nervous. As a baby I’ve had lots of surgeries but I don’t remember them. So in a way this is all new to me. I’m nervous about a lot of things. The anesthesia, the procedure, the recovery. I’m so excited but my nerves are getting the best of me.

What tips do you all have? I’ll definitely keep you all updated!

Amina Winter Box+Review

I’m so excited to share this Etsy shop with you all! Wild Plants Love You was sweet enough to send me out there winter box full of natural feel good items. I know spring is so soon but if you live in the Midwest you probably know that winter never really ends here in Cleveland. The snow keeps coming and the coldness never really goes away. From the start of this winter I have experienced the worst allergies. I’m not sure if it has to do with traveling or extreme weather but this winter has been awful for me. I try to use natural products to make me feel better. I’d prefer to know what’s going in my body. Before I get into the contents of the box I want to share with you all ways I make myself feel better.

  • I drink lots of water. Staying hydrated can really make a difference in how you feel. You’ll be surprised how well you will begin to feel once you hydrate your body. I use an app to remind me to drink liquids throughout the day. It’s easy to forget to stay hydrated when there’s a blizzard outside.
  • Face mask. When I feel really gross from a cold or allergies I do a face mask. Sometimes I use a clay mask (my favorite) or a sheet mask (great for lazy days). The only reason I can tell you that this makes me feel better is because it’s nice to pamper yourself.
  • Drink a cup of tea. This goes with staying hydrated but I also feel as though it helps to relax. There’s something about sitting down and enjoying a nice hot cup of tea.

Before I get into the box I should mention that the winter box is no longer available but you can get the spring box which is just as cool. Okay so now I can get into the awesome contents of the box I was sent.

Ruby Delight Syrup– a tasty syrup you can put into your drinks throughout the day to make you feel better. It’s full of herbs that do great things for the body.

Release+Renewal Incense– I love incense. I love it when I meditate and when I just want to relax.

Cool Balm– have you ever felt achy and stiff during the winter? Well, this balm is for you. It’s great if you have a cold or flu.

Cardamom+Anise Infused Honey– I love this honey! It’s great in tea and even great in oatmeal. If winter had an official flavor this honey would be it.

Sage+Mint Throat Spray– I love this spray so much because my allergies give me the worst sore throats. This soothes this so well.

Deep Breaths Aroma Inhaler– this inhaler is the calmest thing I have ever used. I actually just used it. For me it’s calming but also wakes you up.

I’m so grateful for having the opportunity to try out everything in this box. I hope you all will check out the Etsy shop to see if anything interests you.

Blogmas Day 16+Falling In Love

I’ve only been in love with one man in my whole life. That man is Zephyr (if you haven’t read Blogmas day 14, that’s Ice King’s new name).

I fell in love with him the way you fall in love with a new novel. Fast and ready to escape into a new world. But there was something else that accompanied my love. Passion. I’ve never had the passion I’ve had for Zephyr for another man. So far no one has measured up. It’s hard to describe our love, it’s just for us.

I was lying in his arms crying the other night. My tears soaking his shirt. The room pitch black and my sobs filling the space. He smoothed my hair and rubbed my back and whispered to me that we have a love that we only understand. It’s sort of like this, we were broken children and grew up still broken, but we found each other and put ourselves back together. We found each other to give each other the love and understanding we had always craved. We found each other.

But we’re not getting back together. I love him and he loves me but even with the love and passion we’re still missing something. Maybe we are just okay with being single, but something is missing.

I love him and he loves me. I get to fall in love with him all over again, this time as a friend. When we were together the other night we felt more passion and emotion than we ever felt in our relationship.

We fell in love again.

But we’re not getting back together..

and we are completely okay with that

because we love each other more than before.

It’s just in a different way.

It’s okay if you don’t understand, because we do

and that’s all that really matters.

Blogmas Day 6+Beautiful

Do you want to know what I find to be absolutely beautiful? I believe having a spiritual connection with someone is beautiful. Perhaps it’s a lover, friend, or family member. It honestly doesn’t matter because you can connect physically with anyone.  But it takes something magical to happen for two souls to stick together.

No matter the distance or time apart they always find their way back to each other. They feel what the other feels. They know what the other is thinking. Bodies can connect, but when two spirits do that something magical happens.

It takes vulnerability and patience. It takes love and understanding..

and to me that is absolutely beautiful.

Social Media+Your Story


If I don’t do this now I will keep forgetting to do it. I have a few social media outlets that I would love for you guys to join me on. I always forget to tell you guys, but since I remember now I’ll give you guys the scoop.

I have a love/hate relationship with social media. As much as I love it I hate that it’s such an addictive aspect of my life. So I’ve decided to use my social media presence for good purposes only. One good thing I can think of is getting to know you all better.

I’m always talking about myself. It’s always me this, Shalida that, now granted this is my blog about my life. But I’m naturally a curious person. I want to know everything about you all! I’m on Facebook all day everyday, I Instagram photos all the time, and Pinterest holds all of my inspiration and ideas. Please join me on these social media sites. I want to finally learn YOUR story.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sathewriter

Instagram: @sathewriter

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/sathewriter/

Twitter: @sathewriter

Facebook is the one I use most often, so definitely check me out on there.

Mr. Gorgeous Eyes+How I Feel


Yes, this is my second article of the day. But I thought I would update you all on how tonight went with Mr. Gorgeous Eyes. Just to let you all know he is totally okay with me writing about him on here. He’s a writer also, so he gets it.

Tonight was great, he was great. I had a lovely time. He was such a gentleman and so kind and respectful. I was so nervous and so shy at first, which meant I was quiet. But I realized that this is the same person that I’ve talked to on the phone and he was still the same in person.

I wish the night lasted longer but he wanted to make sure I got home, which I’m not really used to because other guys just never cared. Others guys didn’t make it a point not to use profanity around me, and I appreciated that from Mr. Gorgeous Eyes.

He only held my hand, and I thought that was polite and respectful , because other guys just whip out their..you know. He’s a great guy and I’m glad I met him. I trust him a bit more and I feel extremely comfortable around him. He makes me laugh, and the way he looks at me makes me feel like I’m the only one he’s looking at. If I could change anything it would have been how shy I was. But I know he reads S.A. the Writer so I’m sure he’ll understand.

His eyes are breathtaking and I can’t wait to see more of him. I can’t wait to go on this new journey, no matter the direction it takes. Maybe one day I’ll let you see him, but for now just enjoy this journey with me.

My Summer Beauty Essentials


I’m not saying this to brag, but I rarely wear makeup. I can go weeks without applying a bit of it. Lip balm is my go to “beauty” item usually.  But I am trying to change that. Normally I stick to a red lipstick and a cat eye that can be minimal or dramatic depending on how steady my hand is.

Growing up as a teenager I was spared the “gift” of acne and only used acne wash when companies sent me products and I had a small breakout. I’m a twenty-something now and my skin is starting to change. I get acne breakouts and my skin is more oily than usual. I decided to start taking more care of the skincare and beauty side of the spectrum. I’m trying to remember to take off my makeup before bed, and making my own beauty routine.

Since my beauty laziness is still a strong characteristic of mine, I’m taking baby steps. Here are some of my favorite products that I plan on using for the summer and beyond.

Black Radiance pressed powder-Golden Almond

This is a pressed powder from Black Radiance in shade “golden almond”. I picked this up at CVS after doing a photo shoot and realizing I didn’t own a foundation. I like a pressed powder better because it’s light and I don’t feel like I have to go through a long and exaggerated foundation routine. It works for my lifestyle.

Wet n Wild-Sugar Plum Fairy

Lipstick is my love. I own quite a few of them. I own one expensive brand and the rest are drugstore brands. I love Wet n Wild and I always pick up one of their lipsticks when I stop in CVS. I’m trying to gravitate towards more colors than red, so I fell in love with is berry color. Its a great pop for the summer and is matte without drying out my lips.

Chanel Chance

I love Chanel, my dream bag is a 2.55 bag but until then I have to settle for fragrances. This bottle was a gift from friend Alex from perryrosereport.blogspot.com. I also have another Chanel fragrance but this is my favorite.

Nirvana Nude lip gloss

This beauty was a gift my my closest friend Madison from  chicandchai.com. It’s apart of a set actually from Elizabeth and James aka the Olsen twins. I’ve only had this for a couple of days but it has already been made into an essential. The gloss is a true nude only giving a shine and anything but sticky consistency. I’ll probably wear this daily.

Elizabeth and James black Nirvana

I actually owned this perfume last year but ran out of it. Madison surprised me for my birthday with this and the lip gloss. This is a warm vanilla, violet, and sandalwood mixture that makes me fall in love with it every time I put it on. I love the rollerball because of its ease to carry around. I switch between this and my Chanel.


These sunglasses were a birthday gift to myself. I needed some new ones and I’ve been hearing for years that it’s important to protect the skin around your eyes. The Sun can cause wrinkles and the sunglasses block it from happening. These black and gold cateye beauties were picked up from Amazon ( my addiction). I feel like such a badass wearing them, even though the most rebellious thing I do is add way too much cream to my tea.

I hope you all enjoyed this post. Expect to see more posts like this!

The 20’s+Getting Over Breakups


“22 is basically the only age you can use as leverage. Meaning that because it’s the exact age between life-as-you-know-it and what will later be known as ‘real life’ (that’s scientifically proven, of course), people expect you to make some mistakes. Mistakes like overcooking a pot-roast or dating someone who may not be right for you. And that’s okay, because heck, you’re just 22.”- Shanelle Kaul


Two years into my twenties, and I’m stilling trying to figure things out. But you know what? I’m okay with that. I had a conversation with my best friend Morgan the other day, and I figured out that your twenties are for making mistakes, and messing up.  Dealing with my recent break up is hard, mostly because it came out of the blue. Even though I have nights where I think I will never have anyone in my life, I know deep down there is someone for me. Men come and go, then you meet the love of your life.

I think this breakup is hard because it was my first adult relationship. I don’t want to give out too many details about it, because it’s not fair to him. But this blog, is MINE. I am allowed to post whatever I feel,especially if it will help me feel better. But in this situation I think it would be for best if I kept him private, so I will refer to him as “Ice King”.

Now, back to being 22. This won’t be my last love, and possibly not my last heartbreak. All that matters is that I’m learning, and growing. I learn new things about myself everyday. For example, I hate it when people talk down to me, or make feel like I’m not allowed to express my emotions. I know now in the future that those are qualities in a guy that I don’t want, even if they are doing it unintentionally.

I also know that I have to build my love, and happiness up for myself.  I asked Morgan during our conversation “Remember how happy I was before Ice King, seems like such a long time ago”? The thing is, I was happy, I was recently getting over being admitted into the hospital. I realized that self happiness was important. Then him and I began talking as friends, and things grew into something spectacular , things were great, and then they were not. I was left with a broken heart, and a bitter outlook on men( which has a lot to do with my lack of a father). But that’s not me, when I’m happy, I’m happy. I know how it feels now, and will do whatever it takes to get back to it.


As for Ice King, I believe this is a lesson for him also. The 20’s are confusing, and just like me he’s looking for happiness. I’m probably his least favorite person, but he was just one of the many lessons I will learn in my 20’s. When things were good between us, things were great. But it had to end, it wasn’t meant to be. Morgan gave me the best advice. “The best way to deal with anything dealing with relationships is to first become happy with yourself and to love yourself. Otherwise things will never truly work out with someone else.”  With that information I will leave you all to live your 20’s just like me.


What have you learned in your twenties?

Ragged Row Wishlist

Ragged Row is a contemporary store located in Sewickley,PA. Let me first mention that Sewickley is probably the most beautiful places I have ever been(so beautiful,that I modeled the town in my novel after it.) Secondly.Ragged Row has clothing specifically for the girl that likes being a bit different than the crowd. There are so many edgy pieces to choose from,so many that I decided to do a wishlist.

Original Titan bracelet
Original Titan bracelet
Short Patterned Jacket
Short Patterned Jacket
Adhara Knit Tee
Adhara Knit Tee
Plaid Prep School Shirt
Plaid Prep School Shirt
Calla Convertible Dress
Calla Convertible Dress

All Photos belong to Ragged Row. Click on the images to purchase the item.